Dad update

I mentioned it this morning on my Facebook page, but know a few of you don't venture over to that part of town. Dad got sick last night, actually 1 a.m., shortness of breath, etc. He didn't seem terribly sick to me, and wasn't experiencing chest pains, but I decided to take him to the ER anyway. 

 They ran a few tests on him and want to keep him there a few days for more. My understanding is that what he was experiencing yesterday wasn't the problem; they're more concerned about what could happen next.

 I'm heading back there shortly. I'm not sure if they're contemplating surgery, some simpler procedure or merely a juggling of his medications. I've been in such a funk the last few weeks about my situation, but this was a nice smack in the face. I'm really focused now on him and my mom -- and feel a lot better about everything else.

 The one thing that always warms me at times like this is seeing my parents dote on each other. They argue 24/7 but when something happens to one of them, the other is right there, so caring and tender and loving. It's such a nice thing to see and reminds me how much I love both of them.

Comments

[Nutley Nancy : )]

hi Bill, sorry to hear about your dad. prayers it will turn out to be something minor and he'll be back home soon.
i smiled when i read this because my folks are so similar, they pick on one another (love?) but when something happens, they are so there for each other (& for us too)...thanks for the smiles. ongoing prayers.

(i've had a few of my own minor "crisis" these past few weeks and its' easy to lose focus; those smacks are a pain but they really do bring us back to center don't they?)
take care.

[Darleen]

I'll send a prayer up for you and your loved ones Bill. Please keep us updated.

[lwt]

prayers of course. please keep us posted.

[terrip]

Bill it is nice to hear how much they love each other. And we know how much you love them.

[Michelle G.]

Bill, thanks for updating for those of us who don't Facebook. I wish your Dad a short hospital stay. Hope he feels better soon.

[Michelle]

I'll also say a prayer for your Dad. Let us know how he's doing.

[Linda]

Bill....you have left me speechless. It goes without saying that I will pray harder than I've ever prayed for his quick return home.

Home....I've been crying ever since I pulled up my blinds on the front window. There's a sign on our front lawn...HOUSE FOR SALE BY OWNER.

I've been here 7 yrs and my landlords are like family and I can't believe they would put a sign up without telling me first they were going to be doing this.

In fact we moved in here before they did, they hadn't closed on the place yet.

I lost my brother-in-law, I lost my mother, and now I'll probably lose my home. I don't think I can handle anymore. I just can't.

[bill Ervolino]

FROM BILL: Linda you need a break and a big bottle of wine. Sorry to hear this latest wrinkle although in this real estate market I wouldn't start packing for a year or so.
I'm sure the landlord will sit down with you eventually. In the meantime, Ive heard of many situations when a house is sold but the tenant isn't affected. Take a deep breath....

[Linda]

Thanks Bill....but if I drank even a glass of wine with all the medications I'm on I would probably go into a coma...which might seem like a good idea now but really isn't practical. I will consider eating a whole pizza though.....with extra cheese....and what the heck stick some sausage on there too. :)

My sisters said the same thing about it not selling tomorrow, but you know after the year I've had I wouldn't be surprised if it sold this afternoon. I hate the fear of the unknown.

[Evelyn]

Linda: Even if the house changes hands, they can't just evict you. Take a deep breath - and have some pizza. In this market, they may not be able to sell for years and years, anyway.

[lwt]

bill--isn't there someone in north jersey's real estate department who can address this issue? i think if the buyer wants linda's apartment for a family member, she can be asked to leave, but they can't just evict her without cause. but i'm only guessing. i think the real estate section would likely have answers that were more accurate.

[Linda]

Hey everybody, I'm not being evicted, but do I really want to stay around here and see what happens next. I haven't seen the landlords since the sign went up. SO I guess the first thing is to find out what their plans are.

And no I'm not going to worry about what happens to them if I move out and they can't get another tenant because they are selling the house.

You have no idea what happened during the last 5 yrs or so in the last place I lived. Before I go through the likes of that again I will get a card board box and go down by the river.:) OK...maybe not, but you get the idea.

I'm still going through my mother's stuff...alone.
My mother dies and a few weeks later he's selling the house....what's wrong with this picture. I guess the only way to find out is to go downstairs and knock on their door and I am dreading that I can tell ya.

In 40 yrs no landlord of mine ever had to wait for his rent. I hope that accounts for something if I do have to look for another place. The thought of what I might have to go through kept me up last night and I guess it will for many nights. I saw that sign and the first thing I wanted to do was tell my mother......if I can make it through the rest of this year then I'm a stronger person than I thought I was.

[Earl]

Bill,

Best wishes (always) to your Dad getting better, to your Mom and to you.

[lwt]

alpha linda-what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. maybe, like many of us, your landlord has decided that new jersey is just too expensive a place to live. just to cover your own buns in case the new owners and you can't come to an agreement, why not ask your old landlord for a reference?